The Kinky Controversy

September 9, 2017

Whether it is Cold Lunch, Golden Shower, or going gross with the Alabama Hot Pocket, there are a number of wacky kinky moves that would instigate one to engage in a steamy and bed-rattling lovemaking session. And at the same time, disgust one to even think of these sizzling strategies to reach a peak.

Living in a multi-cultural society, however, there are different ways of expressing one’s sexuality and interests. Keeping aside vanilla sex, some may call these unusual practices as perverted acts, while others may consider these as mental disorders. As the saying goes, “There is pleasure in pain,” BDSM is one such kinky practices that involves intense torment and distress. Camouflaged by taboo, social rejection and animosity, the term apparently came to spotlight after the successful launch of E.L. James’ bestseller “Fifty Shades of Grey.”

From a historical viewpoint

While a number of bizarre sexual practices and acts have been carried out in different societies and cultures or sub-cultures, certain sexual engagements and acts have been observed as paraphilia or aberrant. Paraphilia, which is described by sexually arousing fantasies, urges, or behaviors, involve protracted, extreme and harsh sexual engagements that may last for more than six months, causing significant trouble and torment to their counterparts. Some of the sexual behaviors that are standing tall in the list of paraphilia or deviant behavior and acts include- homosexuality, exhibitionism, voyeurism, fetishism, necrophilia, transvestism, zoophilia, zoosadism, sadomasochism, pedophilia, and a host of such peculiar behaviors.

Teaming the terms “Bondage with Discipline”, “Dominance with Submission” and “Sadism with Masochism,” BDSM practices were found to have been in existence for thousands of years. The “kinky sex” to “edge play” practices of BDSM was however not on the move, until in 1886 when the terms “sadism” and “masochism” were introduced.

The symbolic painting from the 490 B.C. called The Tomb of Flogging (Tomba della Fustigazione) at Etruscan tomb near Tarquinia, Italy, and the mention of different types of hitting practices in the erotic literature of Kamasutra, executed to enhance pleasure, explains the prevalence of the sadomasochistic practice in those times. Moreover, the existence of sadomasochistic exercises in the 9th century B.C. has illustrated the presence of kinky practices in ancient Sparta.

Why do such deviations emerge?

Typically, there are numerous opinions, beliefs, and suspicions prevailing in the society about the mental status of BDSM practitioners. While some consider them perverts, some call them mentally ill. In fact, several pieces of studies and meta-analysis have been carried out to explain the sprouting of such deviations in selected minds.

Some of the studies tried to correlate past child abuse, the prevalence of emotional disturbances, or the derangements of specific biochemical in the brain or endocrine dysfunctions. Further, it was also found that because of their extroverted and less neurotic nature, BDSM enthusiasts scored well on several personalities and psychological tests.

It was also reported that engaging in BDSM practices do not signify any sexual difficulties, rather considered as a simple sexual interest. But on another flip of the coin, another study considers the power and control practice as a predisposed repercussion of mental issues like anxiety, post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), or personality disorder.

Whatsoever, whether you engage in plain vanilla sex or take a step higher to complicate with blindfolds, cuffs, chains, and floggers to fall, crawl, break, bleed or tremble, spice up your sex life as you like it. Introduce a barrel-load of fun and excitement in your relationship. Lastly, don’t let the thrill go.

Picture References:

http://www.hoteltantra.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/01/esclavo-bdsm.jpg

http://www.travelingintuscany.com/art/art/tarquiniane-cropolises.htm

Brighten up every occasion with ExclusiveLane’s tribal jewelry pieces

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May 7, 2021

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“ExclusiveLane’s tribal jewelry pieces are a muse that you cannot refuse.”

Jewelry is a woman’s best friend. She may not be enticed by places, food, or even makeup among other things, but “I have enough jewelry,” said no women ever. Not just does a piece of jewelry represent femininity or social status, it also helps a woman feel confident. It is her prized possession.

A pretty dress and a matching pair of footwear may make one beautiful but doesn’t a piece of jewelry add instant magic to her overall look? Be it a wedding day, a cocktail dinner, or just a random day at the office, a pair of earrings or just a pretty little neckpiece always pep up the look.

Stumbling upon ExclusiveLane’s jewelry collection

Every woman has their own distinct preferences in jewelry. While some like to keep it simple and chic with minimal bling, some like to adorn heavy jewelry pieces studded with precious gemstones or traditional motifs and designs.

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But for someone like me, there’s another branch of preference called “adorning based on mood.” Somedays I would accessorize myself like I am going to Cannes; other times, it is just a plain, dull look with no makeup or accessories, just an exhausted pigeon who jumped out of bed. But amid the several moods, there has never been one where I resisted myself from buying jewelry. I may not wear some of the accessories that I own in this lifetime. Nonetheless, adding them to my collection has always fancied me more than wearing them.

As I was browsing to add a few new trinkets and bling to my treasure box, I happen to brush past some of ExclusiveLane’s tribal jewelry collection. Here are some classic pieces that bewitched me and I am pretty sure you too will love to adorn them for any of your occasions (or just add them to your collection):

“Tribal Queen Beaded” Bohemian Brass Necklace Handcrafted in Dhokra Art (Matinee):

This piece of necklace is a stunner. I love how the colors, the design, and the materials used here balance each other comely. This pretty piece depicts “The Tribal Queen Beaded,” from the collection “The Relics of Mohenjo-Daro.”

Alongside the tint of brown, the color blue is absorbing me more. Of course, I have a fondness for blue but there’s more than just the colors that this neckpiece holds; it’s the amalgamation of materials, the pattern, and the finest work of craftsmanship. What actually grabs one’s interest toward this exquisite tribal piece is its graceful Dhokra Art design that is crafted by precise hands. Besides, the subtleness of the combination of colors is truly enthralling.

Usage: If you want to add a dash of vibrancy or a bold mood to your peaky look, this neckpiece is sure to amaze you. It will go great with any minimally designed top or tunic, a neutral solid or pastel colored saree or salwar, and will even jazz up your “confused to wear which” accessories day.

Price: Rs. 1375

Tribal Beauties” Bohemain Brass Earrings Handcrafted in Dhokra Art:

There’s not a single reason to not fall in love with this timeless beauty. Adding an antique not just enhances the look but also makes the one wearing it stand out from the rest.

Dhokra Art, Tribal jewellery, Tribal earrings, jewellery photography, product photography

This “Tribal Beauties” from the collection “The Relics of Mohenjo-Daro” is another charming piece from ExclusiveLane. What blew me is its aesthetic and subtle work of art.

Usage: This muse is something that will pair perfectly with any look. Add it to your “everyday wear” collection or raise a subtle yet richness to define a heavily embellished saree or lehenga look.

Price: Rs. 595

A brief about ExclusiveLane

ExclusiveLane is born out of love for handicraft products. The company is desirous to handpicked the finest products from rural artisans from different parts of India. Exhibiting diversity, heritage, and authentic products to urban consumers thereby preserving traditional art has been their prime motive.

The company is headed up with the solemn goal to provide economic upliftment of the artisans that are involved in preserving the heritage of the handicrafts industry in India.

What’s more in store

Apart from their exquisite jewelries in focus, ExclusiveLane also houses a range of marvelous collections from dining, home décor, pots and planters, lamps, diffusers, to more. Check out their handcrafted designs at www.exclusivelane.com

Why is caffeine body exfoliation essential for your skin

Madhuri Saikia

August 5, 2021

In recent times, coffee, as a beauty ingredient has garnered much admiration. Whether you sip it or apply it to your skin, coffee, with its countless benefits will surely amaze you. The rich and dark coffee beans, apart from absorbing one in their robust aroma, are also brimmed with antioxidants. They are known for their ample benefits on the skin like delayed aging, calming effects, reduced inflammation, among others.

From the kitchen shelves to beauty cabinets, coffee beauty recipes have topped the beauty trend chart. More or less, a tribe of caffeine-obsessed beauty enthusiasts has increasingly stirred the market with their DIY homemade recipes to organic commercial products.

These caffeine-infused body oils and lotions, coffee scrubs, coffee hair oil, or coffee masks have won various eyeballs. Not only of their effectiveness but also because of their rich aromatic indulgence. One of such personal care brands that have fascinated people with its plush caffeine indulgence is mcaffeine.

Caffeine body exfoliation with mcaffeine products- an essential routine

Many of us fail to take care of the skin below our neck. Aside from giving attention to our facial skin, it is crucial to ensure that the other parts of the body are equally taken care of. Just like cleansing, exfoliating, toning, and moisturizing hold a necessary regime in our skincare routine, body exfoliation, too should occupy the same significant routine.

Routine exfoliation is necessary to get rid of the dead skin cells, unclog the pores, and enhance blood circulation. Looking out for natural exfoliators like sugar, coffee, lemon, and other botanical ingredients can be useful as they gently wear away the skin impurities without causing any damages.

When it is about exfoliation, whether for the face or body, I mostly prefer coffee-based products. First, because it’s totally a natural ingredient and is known for its abundant benefits. And secondly, I just love coffee!

Mcaffeine is one such brand that I rely on when it comes to choosing caffeine-based products. The pure indulgence of coffee and chocolate from mcaffeine is truly a feast for your skin. And the aroma? Oh! Don’t nag me for not warning you that you might end up eating your skin, or the products. Hehe…!!

Read on!

Mcaffeine’s Coffee Body Scrub

You will fall in love at first sight with this body scrub. Sturdy packaging, the goodness of coffee and coconut, an aroma-filled bottle, and a cute wooden spoon to scoop out your portion- why would a sane person not fall for this beauty? This naked and raw body scrub is easy to use and leaves an immediate smoothness of coffee. The powdery scrub rests comfortably onto wet skin and gently scours dead cells and residue clogging the pores, and leaves the skin velvety soft.

Mcaffeine’s choco body lotion

The chocolaty aroma of this body lotion will enhance your mood every time you squeeze dollops from the bottle. Not only does this body lotion deep hydrates and moisturizes the skin but the goodness of cocoa will give an overall soothing experience. If you could, you will literally want to eat your skin. Trust me!

Mcaffeine scalp and hair oil

The delightful aroma of this hair oil will, for sure, transport you to a different world. Apart from stimulating hair growth and nourishing the scalp, this oil is also a great mood booster. Relax, rejuvenate, and soak yourself in the luxuriant of coffee as you take a deep reposeful scalp massage. You can include this scalp and hair oil in your weekly hair care regime.

Mindful beauty practices by mcaffeine

A lot of times, we wonder which products or cosmetics will be a good choice for our body skin- remove the dead cells or exfoliation, or for moisturization. Instead of just relying on mainstream cosmetic products or purchasing based on an excellent ad-copy or pretty photograph, a skin-conscious person should always check out the ingredients before investing or trusting a brand.

Ever since I have transitioned to clean beauty- free from SLS and paraben and animal testing, I have found incredible changes in my skin. Struggling with distressed skin throughout the teenage years of my life taught me not to mindlessly trust any beauty brands easily. Rather, scrutinize each and every ingredient thoroughly, know their impact on skin, and then rely on that brand.

A sustainable beauty brand, mcaffeine with its 100% vegan, cruelty-free, and Peta certified tag caught my interest. The products are FDA approved and are dermatologically tested with no SLS, parabens, silicones & mineral oils.

Have you tried any of mcaffeine’s products? Which is your favorite?

Check out their other products at https://www.mcaffeine.com/

A soft and fluffy date and coffee cake recipe

Madhuri Saikia

July 2, 2020

I can never get enough of cakes. Indeed, baking has proved as the most therapeutic means to manage my anxious mind. Amid all others, baking a date cake and a banana cake seemed stress-free for me; given the fact that I am left with minimal utensils to wash and the cakes turn delectable and fluffy. However, the road to baking a moist and soft old-fashioned healthy date cake consist of not much hard work. Just some great quality dates and brown sugar and the win is all yours.

Ever since I developed this cherished bond with baking aromatic cakes, there’s no stopping. In fact, all the eggs and fruits that my husband brings would go into my cakes or tarts. I love how my fervent desire for cooking (or baking) is molding so perfectly each day. From blazing a cake to ashes to baking that perfectly soft and spongy cake, I have got my hands on precision.

How temperature or material of the vessel affect while baking

And this date cake is the result of weeks of experimenting with temperatures, ingredients, vessels, and techniques. In case of baking, it is imperative to know that every oven has different features and the baking differs from an aluminum to a silicon vessel. So, you need to experiment with your vessels and temperatures of your oven before settling for a perfect spongy cake.

Unlike my other gooey or sticky date cakes, I decided to keep this a bit light, fluffy, and moist at the same time.

Date cake baking temperature may vary depending upon factors like vessels used, materials or size of the cake, etc. For this date cake, I used a rectangular silicon mold and an OTG to bake. I kept the temperature at 185 degrees Celsius for less than 20 minutes.

Here’s the recipe on how to make a perfect date cake, or a date and coffee cake:

Pick a fistful of good quality dates and remove the seeds.
Boil half a glass of water.
Put the dates in the boiling water, stir in between intervals.
Once the water soaks to half, leaving a mushy bottom, add a tablespoon of instant coffee powder.
Stir for about two minutes and remove the pan.
Once cooled, transfer to a food processor and reduce it to a smooth paste. You can also use a few tablespoons of milk if the blend seems too dry.
The date paste is ready.

A Date and Coffee Cake Recipe

This is not a sticky date cake but a fluffy and moist date and coffee cake

Prep Time15

Active Time25

Total Time40

Equipment

Pan
Bowl
Oven
Whisk
Cake Mould

Materials

For the mush

10 Dates Good Quality
1 tbsp Coffee powder Instant coffee
½ Cup Water

The Date Cake

1 Cup All purpose flour
2 Tbsp Cocoa Powder
2 Eggs
½ Cup Sugar White and brown
1 Tsp Butter
3 Tbsp Refined oil
1 Tsp Baking powder
1 Tsp Vanilla essence
1 Pinch Baking soda
1 Pinch Salt

Instructions

Add the flour, baking powder, baking soda, coco powder, and salt in a bowl and seive the dry ingredients once or twice.
In another bowl, break 2 eggs and add the granulated sugar and date mush.
Using a hand mixer, beat the concoction for about 3-5 minutes, until it turns smooth.
Gradually add the the vanilla essence, refined oil, and butter and beat again.
Once all the ingredients are incorporated, add the dry ingredients in batches and beat using the electric whisk.
Mix the ingredients well using a spatula.
Transfer into a well-greased mold.
Bake into a pre-heated oven for 20-25 minutes.
Insert a skewer to check your cake.
Ta-dah!

For a fluffy date cake, make sure your mixture is not too concentrated or neither too runny. It has to be a smooth batter that doesn’t stick on your spatula in a “never-leaving” way.

Also, for mixing the wet ingredients, I used the same pan that I used for boiling the dates. Saved my time washing another utensil. 😉

Did your date cake turn out this good?

Share your experiences in the comments or write to me at [email protected]

Have an aromatic baking experience! 🙂

10 secrets to lure a man

Madhuri Saikia

April 4, 2018

Men will never entirely act the way you want them to because they are men. They may seem easy going, running after you, and even desperately wanting you. But they are not easy to understand. If women are considered complicated, men are the superlatives of it. Unlike women, men don’t open up their thoughts. They like preserving their emotions.

A woman may possess all the attributes of a “perfect life partner,” an amazing catch for any man, but when it comes to getting a picture of her man, she will, at some point, fail to discern his needs and wants.

Check out the mysterious facts and pick the most to impress your favorite man, whether online or offline.

1. Let him speak:

Men are good pretenders. They will never displease you if you ask them how you looked at his friend’s party or decide your favorite holiday destination instead of his’. Understand his mediocrity. Do not ask. Let him speak. Men don’t like clingy women. Inhale confidence, let him compliment you.

2. Enhance your profile:

I read somewhere that “Men don’t read profiles. They just check photos.” Men do read profiles and it’s not just about photographs. Intensify your skills. Because a profile consisting an enormous number of adjectives, hobbies, or self-praises barely attract an alpha man. On the other hand, an aesthetic profile with core adjectives, specifics, with the presence of humor will attract more quality men than the ones judging with photos.

3. Accept his flaws:

Do not be a complain box. He may love you as a woman but your lack of accepting his flaws and poking for every lock stock and barrel, nevertheless, will shun him off from you eventually.

4. Respect his needs:

Men love smart, strong, and successful women. They also want their needs to matter as well. Love isn’t a one-way street. Both the parties have to anticipate each other’s emotions. Men too want someone to take care of them, understand their needs, feed their egos, and complement their masculinity.

5. Peep up your brain:

Man gravitates towards confidence, self-awareness, intelligence, sex appeal, kindness, and specificity. A woman’s beauty can be a variegated affair when teamed with a skillfully crafted brain. Instead of a girl with disguised attributes, a woman possessing these traits will win more hearts.

6. Beauty rules the world:

Beauty provokes a different kind of radiance. Well, that doesn’t mean you have to own a very fair skin or be drop dead gorgeous. He doesn’t often judge beauty by the parameter of your skin color or the length of your skirt. Inner brightness attracts. But no, you do not look good with your obese stomach. Chubby is cute but being obese is unattractive and ugly. Ditch your daily dose of fast foods and groom yourself with a healthy diet and proper exercises.

fat Woman-eating-junk-food — Source: Fossils remedy

7. Build your personality:

You may be amused to know that men do look for certain traits in a woman, from physical appearance to inner aspects. They do notice your chapped fingernails, your worn-out shoes during a They do notice your mismatched color and choice of dress. In fact, they notice everything. Be careful while picking your choice (only if you want to impress him) and never forget to wear a good fragrance. Remember, men are attracted to good smells.

8. Gulp some classiness and culture:

Men love classy and cultured women. While they may hang out with myriad numbers, they will take home only the finely stuffed ones. A half-nude dress may not excite him but a well- cultured lady with her behavior definitely will steal his heart.

9. Tame your emotions:

Hate, revenge, reprisals, jealousy, envy, and selfishness often pushes a person down into the drain of degradation. Cultivate positivism. Be a lady of wits and wisdom than hatching evil plots to win them. Men love humorous women.

jealous woman — Source: Girls Gone Strong

10. Two to tango:

The two things man care about are- Are you sexy? Are you fun to be around? While women have a catalog of wants and needs about her dream man, men ask for two things. If they really want to sleep with you, or if they feel good about themselves when they are around you.

Men do value intelligence and beauty but they also crave for certain things which they can’t get from their business associates- warmth, affection, and thoughtfulness. So, you know what to do next!

How to keep the flame of love glowing?

Madhuri Saikia

January 12, 2018

Getting seriously involved with the opposite sex calls for a bundle of maturity and patience. After spending your days hauling with office drudgery, your evenings fly, wondering about how much exhausted you are even to reach for a good night kiss. Though the erstwhile stage was pretty occupied with excitement, subsequently it starts to turn pale and keeping the flame alive becomes a demanding job for both the partners, gradually.

Love often fails because men want space and women want to understand. Millions of couples join every day in love, whereas million others cries a painful separation. They feel frustration and everyday irritations had doused the spark between them. There are very few people who are able to grow in love.

Let’s grab some quick tips on how to keep that flame glowing:

1) The beauty of loyalty: Trust is the foundation of a relationship. Most relationships fail due to jolt in the foundation. Loyalty garnishes a relationship. Nothing is sexier than a man or woman dedicated to their partners.

2) Love with Friendship: To be great lovers, you need to be great friends first. Men are from Mars, while women are from Venus and surviving with the opposite sex means dealing with things that mean something or sometimes nothing. When you are true friends, instead of trying to have control or change them, you acknowledge and respect their views. You have a shared history of your past life with them which will act as an immune to your relationship in future as your better half have a better understanding of your tastes, preferences, likes, and dislikes.

3) Confess your past: At some point, everyone tends to walk out of their threshold. There are days when you may be attracted to your best friend or to your partner’s cousin. Curiosity can be a bitch at times. You know you are engaged to your partner, still, your curiosity would ignite you to flirt with the new girl in your neighborhood. However, as they say, “Better late than never.” Confessing your flings and faults can actually help retain the lost faith of your partner.

4) Being secure: A peculiar kind of inferiority that can ruin a blooming relationship is insecurity. If you are insecure, own it and fix it. The more fearful you are around your partner, the less attracted they are to you and the relationship is likely to stand on the verge of dying.

5) Blurt it out: When piled up frustration sweeps way to depression and baseless rumination, dissociation wins its race. You want him to take you shopping. Instead of saying it directly, you tend to encircle it with “my best friend’s boyfriend always surprises her with expensive shopping and lavish outings” will not work. Remember, for a man, their formula is “Don’t fix it unless it is broken”.

6) Ignite your sex life: Nobody likes to eat dal and rice every day. Everyone wishes for biryani at times. Nurturing that flame would require volumes of warmth along with a few doses of fresh fragrance to it. Quick tip: Get rid of vanilla sex and explore the other new varieties.

7) Anger and Arguments: It is common for two people who are madly in love with hating each other the very next day. Wrath can literally stretch to violent arguments and abuses which in turn can extinguish the flame of a relationship in no time.

8) Wrap with Compromise: All the huge disputes of the world can be settled with a compromise. Count ego as the greatest enemy and make compromise your priority.

Author’s Take: Rather than engaging in stupid fights, celebrate love and togetherness. Take her for shopping or cook his favorite meal. At the end of the day, the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach and to a girl is through shopping.

9 amazing reasons why it’s awesome to have a Bengali guy friend

Madhuri Saikia

September 8, 2017

Your female friends might disagree to your opinions, spill beans behind your back, puke out your dark secrets and deny helping with assignments. But in contrast, a guy friend would stand all your useless tantrums, lock your secrets safe in their hearts, listen to all your boyfriend problems, help in assignments and in fact do everything that a girl friend will definitely disagree. And cherry in the cake is when your guy-friend is Bengali and you have amazing stuffs to explore about him.

1. SWEET AS MISTI:
  
  They are generally the out spoken people with their tongue is as sweet as Rossogulla and Misti doi. They are friendly people and you will be left with no silly reason to not love their company. You will rarely find them engaging in any controversial activity and they profoundly preach non-violence.
2. BRAVE AT HEART:
  
  You will always feel safe in his company. Although he isn’t muscular like the Punjabi guy, he will always protect you from every street whistles and ‘wo dekh maal jaa rahi hai’ eyes.
3. THEY ARE MUSIC FREAKS
  
  They are the extreme music freak taking interest in various genres. And whoa! Your bong guide is always by your side to help you in updating your playlist with fresh tracks.
4. THE UNIVERSALLY BHAIZONED ELEMENT:
  
  They are the universally Bhai zoned class and their ‘dada’ factor will forever amuse you with their caring attitude. They will defend every obstacle standing your way.
5. CLASSINESS AT ITS BEST:
  
  In other days, he is just the plain simple guy chomping with Nutella all over his face but his pataka look during festivals, aaye haaye will leave you droll your eyes in wonder. He will bet your hunky boyfriend in terms of classiness with his traditional features.
6. THE TOPPERS:
  
  They are generally the intelligent class compared to rest of your circle. With him by your side, you will never have to worry about bulky assignments and deadlines ever again.
7. LAZINESS IS SYNONYMOUS:
  
  They are lazy people which actually make your life easier. Unlike your impatient boyfriend, you can get ready for a party without any 50 messages and 100 calls with him. The Indian tradition of always getting late and the logic behind one minute equals one hour can be equally be applied with him
8. CULTURALLY ENLIGHTENED:
  
  They have been taught to respect women and treat them with courtesy since childhood. They are highly cultured and would acquaint you to every values and tradition whenever you step the wrong route.
9. FOODIE:
  
  Bongs are great foodies as well as master chefs of their kitchen. You will be introduced to different relishing delicacies and styles of cooking by him. Befriend his mom so that you can invite yourself for a sumptuous dinner with illish maas’ r sorsori.

Let us know your views about this article in the comment section below.

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