After an arduous four years battle with depression, he finally got estranged from its claws. Numerous relapses and a mulish addiction to alcohol, brought him miseries that he could barely imagine in his wildest dreams.
“Depression strolls in one’s life begging for its existence. Once it senses any hint of odd, uncovers its majestic form, under different highs and lows.” He said.
An abusive father, bad companions, and maltreatment in school made the ground of depression fertile for him. He was one of those, who would suppress his emotions and cover his thoughts, no matter how devastating they are.
In the beginning, he was totally clueless about the series of unwanted events happening with him. Craving for high-calorie food, sleep issues, increased argument with his girlfriend, feeling numb and hazy every time, became his regular routine.
After much contemplation, he could match signs with depression. Spaced out, he decided to disclose the matter to his parents. But his surprise jumped in amusement when his dad brought him a Brainolia (a kind of memory enhancing syrup) while his mom massaged his scalp with Navratna oil (a soothing ayurvedic hair oil).
Finally, seeking a psychologist was his only choice left. He was prescribed with antidepressants. For four years he soaked in antidepressants, with higher doses every week.
A conversation about his struggle with prolonged depression
As he says, “Depression is all about self-esteem. We have a monitor in our mind. When we do good, it feels good and when something bad happens, it feels bad. But once you learn to distinguish between good and bad, learn to stand for yourself, that self-esteem gradually builds up.”
Q: How was depression, your old friend? A: I broke up with her now. There are times when she didn’t let me sleep for days. That phase was horrible but it taught me many things.
Q: How did it all end? A: I was drained, both mentally and physically. Depression had taken away my health, sleep, and my life completely. And antidepressants, they deteriorated the situation more. Around 4 am, one day, I was lying in bed and staring at the ceiling. Out of sheer frustration, I walked out of my home. Kept walking, heedlessly. After few hours, I felt good. And then, there’s no stopping since then.
Q: Did you get hook on to any sort of drugs? A: Yes, I was an extensively into alcohol and marijuana. In one instance, I drank a full raw bottle of whisky, with a hope to gain some sleep. But woke up with wide eyes within two hours. However, I am all clean now.
Q: Did you experience any suicidal ideation? A: I felt total numbness but there were no suicidal thoughts. Also, I was not afraid to die. It was like let things happen their way.
Q: How were your parents and friends? Did they support you? A: My parents and siblings were quite supportive, unlike my friends. When I discussed my condition with my friends, they lend a hand with alcohol. They were just waiting for me to get well. When I was recovering, still battling, they influenced me toward alcohol, once again. Further, relapse knocked.
Overcoming depression
After the fourth cup of coffee, he put forth some of the important practices he followed that helped him in his battle. Below are some of them:
Journaling helps a lot. I jot down all my good, bad, and ugly feelings. These anecdotes now help me in making music.
Stay away from bad influence and from any sort of drugs. Eventually, you will fall into the trap of addiction, further depreciating things more.
Avoid narcissistic people. Learn about narcissism and co-dependency.
Avoid any kind of spiritual modality. You will likely fall prey to these. Be VERY CAREFUL.
Exercise is a must. You will feel lethargic, not want to even think of it. This is a very slow process. It took me a year. But exercising augmented my thought process and helped in enhancing my self-worth. I started loving my life.
Self-counseling helps. I treat myself as a child. I ask questions, about things that hurt me, why did I feel bad about something that the other person had said, is it good? Is it bad? Then I come to the climax.
Know that you cannot please everyone. Society is a huge problem. Prejudices like you are too good to revert to an elderly person’s (wrong) views, would subsequently want you to restore their faith in you.
There have been numerous times when he was raped, mentally. After four years of living in absolute darkness, Ankit finally defeated his demons. He is now happy to embrace the scars left by his kick-boxing practices than by those dreadful four years.
Struggle of distinguishing depression
The word “depression” is powerful enough to frighten anyone. In a world with more than 300 million people struggling with depression, only a handful of them dares to speak up about their mental status. And others? They suffer in the shadows of misery, despondency, and ultimately seek suicide as their final destination.
Camouflaged by societal stigma, prejudices, and indifference, people battling with depression or any other mental clutter could barely distinguish their problems or seek professional guidance.
There are people who may not even realize the signs and intensity of depression and in turn, can fall in the vicious cycle of drug or alcohol addiction. Thus, it’s imperative to know and understand the signs before it is too late.
Editor’s Take: We will update an article on the signs and symptoms of depression in our health section soon.
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It has been 23 years, Bryan Saunders‘ Drug-Influenced Self Portraits still garner contemplation on the internet. The artist had locked on to create at least one self-portrait every day and continue until the rest of his life.
From March 30th, 1995 he has created over 11,200 of them. Like fingerprints, snowflakes, and DNA they possess disparate properties. No two of his daily-self-portraits evoke similar features.
Artists, for hundreds of years, put themselves to represent the world around them. Whereas, Saunders believes in creating a paradoxical world. He places the world around him to represent himself. As he says, “I am more concerned with channeling experiences than I am collecting memories but I do both and much more.”
What’s inside an artist’s mind?
Creative minds, call it of an artist, a poet, a musician, or of a writer’s, are rarely tidy. The road to producing something unparalleled or exclusive is stuffed with inexhaustible rumination. Consequently, taking that imagination to reality require chewing over several predicaments. Over time, they are trapped in a cycle of undiagnosed mental health issues and addiction with mind-altering substances.
Saunders was another such artist who channels his anxious mind to visual art and musical performances. A way to deal with his demons.
He experimented with different drugs each day and sketched his portraits under its influence. The portraits narrate a powerful message- the power of addiction.
Here are some of the illustrations from his “Near Death Experience” album.
Over the years, Guwahati has developed gracefully with a number of restaurants, cafes, pubs, and clubs blooming amid the support of its inhabitants. These wings have flapped smoothly with time, offering excellent services and hospitality to its customers. Consequently, there are also some restaurants, who, with their appalling services, have disheartened many of the city’s food fanatics.
I remember visiting a café in Rajgarh road, Guwahati, sometimes back. As a café hunter, I popped to this restaurant in search of good coffee and ambiance. To my utter disgust, I was served with green chutney and chickpeas (chola) salad with pasta cooked with an emptied bottle of parmesan dressing and a cup of error-filled coffee.
I left the place and swore never to go back there or recommend anyone. But when I thought to drop a review on Zomato, I was surprised to see their enormous all-good reviews with four and five stars. And later that evening, a magazine carried an exclusive article praising their food. Horrible!
Another grievous tale
With tight deadlines and demanding schedules, it often becomes an arduous chore to balance family and career life. As a means to connect with those lost dots, 23 YO Rahul Rajkhowa, a musician by profession, thought of taking his family on an elegant dinner to a restaurant called Chung-fa, located in Zoo Narengi Road, Guwahati.
Because one pays a substantial amount to spend quality time with their loved ones, how can they not whine the uncooked food that was served after an hour of waiting?
On complaining about the “rubbery” under-cooked noodles, the waiter called the manager who instructed him with, “Array Garam kar de, phir kha lenge.”
When they questioned about serving them cold food and re-heating it, the waiter started arguing why they can’t eat that food or packed it home. And later with emotive throws like “You cannot talk to me like this just because you are from a stable economic background.”
As they moved to the cash counter, the owner, hiding behind her computer, began tossing them with rebukes. Furthermore, the waiter, along with another waiter started attacking him and his parents with abuses of being a liar.
Rahul took his social media account to shared his sour experience with Chung-fa restaurant.
This is what he wrote:
More horrifying abuses
Isn’t it distressing to pay a hefty food bill and earn such harassment in turn? Well, this reminds me of the scam momo sellers of Guwahati perform. The dispiriting onions and cabbage fillings (in the name of chicken and pork momos), covered with thick-unhealthy layers of maida, makes one realize how terribly these restaurants have deceived them.
And then comes the servers, who often gives you the feeling that you work for them, and your job is to feel fortunate whatever you get.
What are your views to change such a degrading scenario?
Philippines-based illustrator Kerby Rosanes, who mainly works with ink, fine lines and markers to illustrate his doodle world, considers his art as a personal hobby. Subsequently, his art became his part-time freelance work after being recognized by various design blogs, international magazines, and online art communities.
In 2014, Kerby left his job as a graphic designer in order to pursue his passion for art. He started working on personal projects, as well as for clients, while at the same time also collaborated with other artists, global brands and design agencies around the world.
At the age of 25, Kerby had already published five books including The New York Times’ best-seller, Animorphia in 2015. The success of his books paved way for him to travel the world making art and appear on television shows like in BBC World News and ABC’s Good Morning America.
Take a stroll through some of his amazing skilled works of art:
1) This is known as the EXPEDITION
2) This one is called PERFORMANCE
3) This is RED
4) Here goes the GREEN MAN from mythomorphia
5) He named this BEYOND THE WAVES
6) TOTEMPLE
7) Some more intricate multiliners
8) My gosh!
9) Oh wait, there are more
10) *Slow claps*
Besides being known for his splendid work, he is also recognized for his reflection of vibrancy in his art. You can check out more of his works at Kerby Rosanes
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These impossible, rather improbable photographs of an Italian artist would, nevertheless irk one, make them wonder, reconsider, or probably bewitch them to scroll for the next.
Artist and photographer, Giuseppe Colarusso’s bizarre series of artwork titled, Unlikely, depict off-the-wall envisions of his mind. He weaves fantastic, singular, and strange fictive in each of his art. His peculiar, rather curiously fabricated pieces would, beyond doubt, trigger inquisitiveness to its viewer.
As the artist says, he trusts each of his pictures and they would definitely influence one to stop, stare, and ideally, bring smile on one’s face. Oh! Obviously worth it right?
Check out some of his amazing arts.
Who needs this?
Interesting.
Looks like a visual interpretation of Painful Death.
Can you imagine an ice candle?
Oh that’s an enormous penne.
Marry me?
Whaaaat!? 😮
You can also check out rest of his works in his website.
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The Sunshine Blogger Award is given to those bloggers who are creative, optimistic, and inspiring while spreading sunshine to the blogging community. And, Yass…!!! This is my first nomination to Sunshine Bloggers Award.
Oh, won’t it be rude if I do not offer my gratitude to my nominator?
So, thank you so much, Rahul, the man behind this mesmerizing travel blog, Inside Out with Rahul Yuvi. This is truly overwhelming.
But before rolling over my 11 super-duper answers asked by my fellow blogger, why not brush through the rules once?
Thank the Blogger who nominated you in the blog post add their link in your post.
Answer the 11 questions which your nominator asked you.
Nominate up to 11 new bloggers for the award and write them 11 new questions for the same.
Let your nominees know that they have been nominated.
List the rules and add the Sunshine Blogger Award in your post.
And, here goes my answers:
Q.1 Why exactly did you took to blogging?
Ans- During my school days, I was inclined toward my grammar classes more than the other subjects. There are also instances when I failed to score even the minimum marks in the other subjects while scoring full marks in dictation and grammar.
Gradually, I started scribbling my life events in the form of poetries and stories, adding fictional elements of interest. With time and introduction to numerous blogs, I decided to store my mind in the virtual world of words.
Q.2 How has blogging changed you as an individual?
Ans– Blogging enhanced my writing style. It introduced me to numerous methods, use of proper punctuations, grammar, and so on. But more importantly, it helped dispatch my thoughts to the world.
Q.3 Name 1 blogger in your friend circle who you think has got best writing skills?
Ans– I do not have a friend whom I can consider a good blogger. But there are many great content writers in my circle.
Q.4 Do you plan to earn through your blogs in near future? If yes, then what are best strategies that you gonna deploy for your subject plan to be successful?
Ans– I am already earning. However, further strategies would include maintaining my consistency in writing every day and give my viewers better content to keep them engaged.
Q.5 How do you keep yourself motivated for writing at the time when the traffic at your blog is really low?
Ans– That’s where the real game lies. There are times when my blog’s traffic goes extremely down. But I never get disappointed during those times. Self-motivation is the key.
Q.6 What according to you is best and why – a blog should be unilateral (say exclusively Travel or exclusively Food) or it should be flexible with multi – categories?
Ans– Depends on the blogger/writer whether he/she wants to keep it exclusive or be open to numerous categories.
Q.7 What is average monthly traffic on your blog? How do you plan to increase the same?
Ans– It keeps fluctuating. I don’t want to share it right now. ?
Q.8 Tell a little about who you exactly are (150 words max.)
Ans–
-Sometimes sane, mostly in my dilapidated mind, wondering about things that barely matters.
-A caffeine craver who wants her coffee and husband, hot.
– A procrastinator who has mastered the subject
– A layman artist who hates perfection
Q.9 How would you rate my Blog “Inside Out with Rahul Yuvi ” on a scale on 10? Mention a few words in support of your ratings.
Ans– 7.5. Noticed few grammatical errors and unnecessary lengthy sentences. But you have a long way to go. My best wishes for your further endeavors, dear blogger.
Q.10 Do you plan to quit the job and take to full-time blogging? If Yes, then what are your survival plans? If No, then why not?
Ans– I am already a full-time blogger. The initial days were brimmed with hopelessness and totally zero motivation. I was afraid to speak my mind. Precisely, was afraid of being judged by the world.
Over time, I learned how to handle things with patience and importantly, how to face criticisms. So now, it’s all about jumping into the ocean and search for treasures (without getting drowned of course).
Q.11 Name 3 best bloggers (mention link to their blogs) that you have come across so far.
Ans– I am yet to discover those three. But I really enjoy reading Living Foodz’s articles.
And here, I nominate 11 other bloggers whose works are indeed worth reading.
Amid the dark alleys and illuminated cities, there is a section of folk trapped in the woes of prejudices, humiliation, and stigma. They are often interrogated with bizarre curiosities, gawked at their appearance and gestures, judged for carrying themselves uniquely, and particularly, for not matching rhythms with the general public. Yes, I am talking about the LGBTQ community.
“The presence of the third gender has numerous evidence throughout history. Significant books like Kamasutra or the Rig Veda holds accounts on such, yet people of the present day do not want to accept us.” Romi muttered with a long sigh.
As I take my second bite of paratha, Annie ba (Romi’s sister) narrated how ruthlessly passerby rebuke or look down upon at her brother, as if he were an alien. She, despite knowing about her brother’s interest in makeup, dolls, and pink, acknowledges his preferences and treasure his needs wholeheartedly.
Unlike his peers, who confine themselves to certain limitations in regard to their sexuality, Chow Poran J. Gogoi, also known as Romi, despise leading a pretentious life.
“My life holds a series of unfortunate events interlaced by melancholy.” As he talked in detail about others from his niche, I didn’t lose the chance to learn in-depth about his life, about this life- often unheard, secretive, and full of mystery and myths.
Here is the not-so-quick question set that he replied without any hesitation.
A very basic question, when did you first realize that you are a gay?
I never realized or had this idea that I was different from the rest. It is a feeling that was given to me by this society. According to them, I did not fit in their shoes. For them, I was neither a straight man nor a straight woman.
Precisely, during my growing stage, I felt an inclination toward my feminine side more. I felt I am trapped in a wrong body. Things were very indistinct. I was in class 9 or 10 when the internet came in Guwahati. After I researched numerous websites, finally found out that I am different from others or probably others are different from me.
How was the struggle during those initial times?
It was like fighting with your own self. You have an inner feeling that constantly tells you that you are normal and absolutely all right. But then when you have to prove yourself or act a certain way to make others happy, a perpetual battle between your own psyche and existence drink you down entirely. It was such a depressing phase. It broke me completely. I even tried to kill myself. I would just do anything to be invisible.
My parents’ demise, on the other hand, compounded more fuel to the flames. When people ask me about my happy moments from childhood, I literally have to think. It’s a phase that I don’t want to recall.
Gay men are often projected or considered hyper-sexual. Is it true?
Gay men are more visible. Men, compared to a woman, are much more active, sexually. While heterosexuals celebrate their sexuality openly, gay men do not have the same liberty. They have to put the kibosh on their desires and wants. Thus, in an attempt to convey their feelings, they often end up being perceived as sexual connotation by others.
How is the scenario in Guwahati?
We have a very strong community in Guwahati but not everyone wants to come out. Some are open, some are not. We even gather for get together to share our spaces. Gay men from different background attend these meetings, talk about their issues, and discuss about creating awareness among general public.
What happens in such gatherings?
Gatherings like these are mostly about empowering this community with emotional support. People talk about their feelings and celebrate this life. Here, the members of LGBTQ break all restrains and connect to their own self.
Do straight men approach you?
Oh, very much. *giggles* Almost 98% of men who had flirted with me, are straight men. Maybe because they consider me a girl or probably find me trustworthy. I enjoy those attention very much. *laughs*
Have you tried making out with a girl? How did it go?
Well, yes. I did this social experiment when I was 18. She said it will be fun. After the initial step, it became difficult for me to hold on to it and we dropped the idea halfway.
Why do gay men talk or act with gestures that are too much feminine? Are there any rules that gays have to act in a certain way? Is it attention seeking? Or is it some sort of practice?
This is no rule, practice, or attention seeking. Not all, but some gay men feel that their body is very fragile and soft. Even if they speak or move, it will be very rhythmic and soft. They are way too soft. That’s extreme girly and happens naturally, mostly with gay men who are overmuch in touch with their feminine side.
I have seen that most makeup artists or fashion designers who are gay are loud, rebellious, and emphatic. Why is it so?
Initially, I was vulnerable and angry, made both jaded and wary by my solitary life. But with time, I have learned to depress and ignore those mocks and taunts. But some gay men are fed up with regular suppression and ridicules. Eventually, they become boisterous and loud and are laced with profanity. They don’t give a damn. If they like someone, they will profess, no matter how obscene it appears to the other person.
Some are being patient, waiting for a miracle to happen whereas some have accepted the fact that no miracle is going to happen. Society is never going to change so they should be as bad to them as they are.
How helpful is Assam Government toward the LGBT community?
*Laughs* Assam government doesn’t even have a freaking clue about LGBT. There is no help from the government. They don’t know about LGBTQ. The pride rally that happens every year, is nothing less than a joke for them. And louse Assamese media, for the sake of creating a sensational news, would bombard with obnoxious questions like “What are you doing? Why are you parading? What are all these masks and makeups about? Oh, these guys want their rights.”
That’s it.
Ever given a chance, will you prefer a sex change operation?
There are numerous risks associated with such surgeries. And even if you get your sex change operation done, you won’t be considered a woman. You will be considered a trans woman, leading to only a fistful of men approaching you for marriage.
Sex change operation is something that not every gay men desires. It is a personal choice. I would not want to opt for sex change. I am happy with my body. But kudos to the ones who dare to take such risks.
What kind of remarks do you receive from people while stepping out of home?
People stare at me, every time. And staring is something I can’t stand. I even tried putting on the beard, still, people stare. Even when I am not putting makeup or wearing my pink skirt with a pink pouch, people gawk at me.
There was a time when I badly wanted to be popular, wanted to be seen, wanted people to know me. But now, I literally want to be invisible.
How do you respond to people’s curiosities?
Oftentimes, people ask me how it feels like being a gay. I say I feel like a mutant, I feel fantastic. People are so much curious to know what I do in bed, how I do it. People even ask me how I perform in bed. It was so uncomfortable when in an interview I was asked how sexual intercourse takes place between two men.
Would you like to mention a humiliating moment of your life?
I was called to judge a fashion show. As always, I was dressed up in a flamboyant manner. While the other two judges were duly felicitated, I was overlooked. They forgot to felicitate me, and I was standing there for nearly 20 minutes. Then later, they are like “Oh we have one more judge with us.” It was such humiliating for me. Had I not been open about my sexuality, I would have got the same amount of respect as the rest. Such things, when they occur at the initial stages of one’s career, breaks their self-esteem completely.
Gays are often assumed as predators of sex. Can you explain this why?
If people see a girl and a boy holding hands or kissing in public, they will let it fall between the cracks. But in cases of gays or transgenders, if people find them holding hands, they will create a huge ruckus.
If I like a guy and try to pass a comment or flirt with him, like any other human, it is so normal for me. I was only trying to make a connection. Trying to tell him that look at me, I am interested in you. But to the other person, it appears as if I am approaching him for sex. At times, when I compliment a guy that he’s cute or hot, he’ll be like “How dare you to call me hot.” But if a girl says that, he will take it as a compliment.
Do you think people’s mindset toward this community has changed over the years?
Things have rather turned sour with time, largely due to its grotty projection and people’s ignorance. Gay men are frequently being exhibited in the Indian entertainment industry as a travesty. Whenever there’s a funny, hilarious, or embarrassing moment, gays are being placed with a funny background music. We were never projected in a respectable manner. People think gay men are nothing but an object of ridicule or mockery.
What do you expect from the government?
Create more awareness about LGBTQ. If the government start speaking about it, the mass will follow anyway. There should be certain public forums or mediums where people from urban or rural areas both, can know about the difference and division. If section 377 get abolished and people start talking about it openly, they will get to know about our existence and in fact, several traditional beliefs will get dissolved over time.
People should know that being a gay (a lesbian, bisexual, or a transgender) is not contagious. It is not a disease, a phase, a decision, or a life choice. We are born this way.
And supporting gay rights will not make anyone a gay. People should be more tolerant, kinder, and acceptable. They should broaden up and accept us because we have and want to offer so much to this society.
Describe your life.
My life is nothing less than a melodramatic movie. It is such unfortunate that even if I like someone or want to make out with him, things have to be under wraps. I can’t talk about my love life. If I like someone, I can’t express it. Had I put my love life on social media, I would be slapped with criticisms and insults. It has become tiresome now. Eventually, I feel deserted. Whatever stamina or energy is left, I apply it in my chores.
What gives you happiness?
Being honest with myself and sleeping sound at the end of the day, knowing that I haven’t lied to the people around me, knowing that I am pure and true to my very existence. For me, breathing with layers of lies and secrets underneath is frightful.
Dejected, depressed, and oppressed, people from the LGBTQ community often face the wrath of societal prejudices. This community has an abundance to offer the world. But despite their substantial attributes in numerous grounds, they always have to crawl in the vicious cycle of abuse and mere mockery at the end of the day.
Every time you see a loud and rebellious person from this community, remember, it’s you who made him/ her like this. Everyone deserves to be loved. Respect and see magic happen.
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Whether it is Cold Lunch, Golden Shower, or going gross with the Alabama Hot Pocket, there are a number of wacky kinky moves that would instigate one to engage in a steamy and bed-rattling lovemaking session. And at the same time, disgust one to even think of these sizzling strategies to reach a peak.
Living in a multi-cultural society, however, there are different ways of expressing one’s sexuality and interests. Keeping aside vanilla sex, some may call these unusual practices as perverted acts, while others may consider these as mental disorders. As the saying goes, “There is pleasure in pain,” BDSM is one such kinky practices that involves intense torment and distress. Camouflaged by taboo, social rejection and animosity, the term apparently came to spotlight after the successful launch of E.L. James’ bestseller “Fifty Shades of Grey.”
From a historical viewpoint
While a number of bizarre sexual practices and acts have been carried out in different societies and cultures or sub-cultures, certain sexual engagements and acts have been observed as paraphilia or aberrant. Paraphilia, which is described by sexually arousing fantasies, urges, or behaviors, involve protracted, extreme and harsh sexual engagements that may last for more than six months, causing significant trouble and torment to their counterparts. Some of the sexual behaviors that are standing tall in the list of paraphilia or deviant behavior and acts include- homosexuality, exhibitionism, voyeurism, fetishism, necrophilia, transvestism, zoophilia, zoosadism, sadomasochism, pedophilia, and a host of such peculiar behaviors.
Teaming the terms “Bondage with Discipline”, “Dominance with Submission” and “Sadism with Masochism,” BDSM practices were found to have been in existence for thousands of years. The “kinky sex” to “edge play” practices of BDSM was however not on the move, until in 1886 when the terms “sadism” and “masochism” were introduced.
The symbolic painting from the 490 B.C. called The Tomb of Flogging (Tomba della Fustigazione) at Etruscan tomb near Tarquinia, Italy, and the mention of different types of hitting practices in the erotic literature of Kamasutra, executed to enhance pleasure, explains the prevalence of the sadomasochistic practice in those times. Moreover, the existence of sadomasochistic exercises in the 9th century B.C. has illustrated the presence of kinky practices in ancient Sparta.
Why do such deviations emerge?
Typically, there are numerous opinions, beliefs, and suspicions prevailing in the society about the mental status of BDSM practitioners. While some consider them perverts, some call them mentally ill. In fact, several pieces of studies and meta-analysis have been carried out to explain the sprouting of such deviations in selected minds.
Some of the studies tried to correlate past child abuse, the prevalence of emotional disturbances, or the derangements of specific biochemical in the brain or endocrine dysfunctions. Further, it was also found that because of their extroverted and less neurotic nature, BDSM enthusiasts scored well on several personalities and psychological tests.
It was also reported that engaging in BDSM practices do not signify any sexual difficulties, rather considered as a simple sexual interest. But on another flip of the coin, another study considers the power and control practice as a predisposed repercussion of mental issues like anxiety, post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), or personality disorder.
Whatsoever, whether you engage in plain vanilla sex or take a step higher to complicate with blindfolds, cuffs, chains, and floggers to fall, crawl, break, bleed or tremble, spice up your sex life as you like it. Introduce a barrel-load of fun and excitement in your relationship. Lastly, don’t let the thrill go.
Your female friends might disagree to your opinions, spill beans behind your back, puke out your dark secrets and deny helping with assignments. But in contrast, a guy friend would stand all your useless tantrums, lock your secrets safe in their hearts, listen to all your boyfriend problems, help in assignments and in fact do everything that a girl friend will definitely disagree. And cherry in the cake is when your guy-friend is Bengali and you have amazing stuffs to explore about him.
SWEET AS MISTI:
They are generally the out spoken people with their tongue is as sweet as Rossogulla and Misti doi. They are friendly people and you will be left with no silly reason to not love their company. You will rarely find them engaging in any controversial activity and they profoundly preach non-violence.
BRAVE AT HEART:
You will always feel safe in his company. Although he isn’t muscular like the Punjabi guy, he will always protect you from every street whistles and ‘wo dekh maal jaa rahi hai’ eyes.
THEY ARE MUSIC FREAKS
They are the extreme music freak taking interest in various genres. And whoa! Your bong guide is always by your side to help you in updating your playlist with fresh tracks.
THE UNIVERSALLY BHAIZONED ELEMENT:
They are the universally Bhai zoned class and their ‘dada’ factor will forever amuse you with their caring attitude. They will defend every obstacle standing your way.
CLASSINESS AT ITS BEST:
In other days, he is just the plain simple guy chomping with Nutella all over his face but his pataka look during festivals, aaye haaye will leave you droll your eyes in wonder. He will bet your hunky boyfriend in terms of classiness with his traditional features.
THE TOPPERS:
They are generally the intelligent class compared to rest of your circle. With him by your side, you will never have to worry about bulky assignments and deadlines ever again.
LAZINESS IS SYNONYMOUS:
They are lazy people which actually make your life easier. Unlike your impatient boyfriend, you can get ready for a party without any 50 messages and 100 calls with him. The Indian tradition of always getting late and the logic behind one minute equals one hour can be equally be applied with him
CULTURALLY ENLIGHTENED:
They have been taught to respect women and treat them with courtesy since childhood. They are highly cultured and would acquaint you to every values and tradition whenever you step the wrong route.
FOODIE:
Bongs are great foodies as well as master chefs of their kitchen. You will be introduced to different relishing delicacies and styles of cooking by him. Befriend his mom so that you can invite yourself for a sumptuous dinner with illish maas’ r sorsori.
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In the heartland of Nagaland, a captivating aroma wafts through the air, drawing coffee lovers and curious souls alike to a place where coffee isn’t just a beverage but a passionate journey curated by the Coffee Lady of Nagaland, Miss Atsi Jamir.
Atsi, the brainchild behind this extraordinary coffee venture, embarked on her odyssey into the world of coffee in 2019. It was then that she established her very own specialty coffee cafe in Medziphema, a quaint town nestled amidst Nagaland’s natural beauty. Fuelled by her unwavering enthusiasm for coffee, Atsi has transformed her pretty little cafe into a hub of coffee expertise.
With qualifications rooted in the deep knowledge of coffee from both the United States and India, Atsi’s journey has been a meticulous quest to perfect her craft. A notable feather in her cap is her certification from the Specialty Coffee Association in Irvine, California, an accolade that makes her Nagaland’s sole certified female coffee expert.
However, what truly sets Atsi apart is her commitment to nurturing coffee culture in her homeland. Atsi, who believes in “embracing the beauty of simplicity and nurturing community needs” has left her mark as a professional barista, sharing her wisdom in Kohima and Dimapur. At the same time, her current endeavors see her collaborating with and training coffee farmers in Mon, Mokokchung, and Dimapur districts. Atsi’s expertise spans the entire coffee value chain, from the cultivation and processing of coffee beans to the art of brewing and the diligent pursuit of quality control.
Here are the five core areas where the Coffee Lady brand shines:
Barista Training Programs
At the heart of Coffee Lady’s mission is the commitment to imparting knowledge. The brand offers comprehensive Barista Training Programs, equipping coffee enthusiasts with skills in brewing techniques, espresso preparation, latte art, and the art of exceptional customer service.
Business Planning for Coffee Cafes
Coffee Lady extends a helping hand to budding coffee entrepreneurs. Atsi and her team assist in developing effective strategies for coffee establishments. They optimize operations, enhance customer experiences, and provide invaluable insights to drive profitability.
Special Services
Coffee Lady specializes in crafting unique and personalized brewing experiences. They guide sourcing high-quality coffee beans and curating exceptional coffee moments that leave a lasting impression.
In-Depth Equipment Recommendations
Choosing the right equipment is crucial in the world of coffee. Coffee Lady offers technical knowledge and guidance on selecting the perfect equipment for consistent quality and operational efficiency.
Virtual-Strategy and Training Sessions
Coffee Lady believes in continuous improvement. After project completion, they provide virtual sessions to track success and refine operations. Through strategy discussions and targeted training programs, they ensure that excellence becomes a habit.
Here’s What You Can Expect in a Pouch of Coffee Lady
Besides an aroma-filled cup and the freshness of the Naga hills, here are a few things that make Coffee Lady a distinctive brand.
A Passionate Pioneer: Atsi Jamir, the visionary behind Coffee Lady, isn’t just an entrepreneur; she’s a passionate pioneer. Her coffee journey started not as a business venture but as a genuine love affair with coffee. This authentic passion infuses every aspect of Coffee Lady’s operations, creating a brand deeply rooted in a love for the craft.
A Commitment to Community: Unlike many other coffee brands, Coffee Lady doesn’t merely source its beans; it nurtures them. Atsi’s involvement in training coffee farmers in Nagaland is a testament to the brand’s commitment to empowering local communities and ensuring the sustainability of coffee cultivation.
A Taste of Nagaland: Coffee Lady’s specialty blends and curated coffee experiences offer a taste of Nagaland’s rich culture and natural beauty. They seamlessly blend global coffee expertise with local flavors, creating a truly unique coffee experience that can’t be replicated elsewhere.
In a world where coffee brands can sometimes feel indistinguishable, Coffee Lady emerges as a shining example of what sets a brand apart. It’s not just about the coffee; it’s about the passion, community, and unwavering commitment to excellence that infuse every cup and every consultation. Coffee Lady isn’t just a brand; it’s an experience that leaves a lasting imprint on the coffee world. With their expertise and attention to detail, they are dedicated to delivering results that speak of quality and excellence in every cup.
Currently, they are available in a few stores in Nagaland, however, you can also place your order by directly messaging them on their Instagram handle, @coffeelady_coffee.
